Ancestor Fact sheet

In preparation for your constellation, you may want to ponder on (or even make a few enquiries into) the following questions. You don’t need to send me anything, it is more to get you thinking about your ancestors. We will begin our time together with a chat.

What is your heart’s desire? This question guides this way of working. It is a helpful place to start.

Do you know…

if anyone in your present family or family of origin:

• Died during childbirth or suffered an illness or disability resulting from having given birth to a child (your mother, grandmother, great-grand-mother, or a former partner of your father or Grandfather)?

• Life was endangered during childbirth (your mother or grandmother)?

• Committed suicide?

• Served or died in military service?

Your family of origin:

These questions relate to your siblings, your parents and their siblings, the grandparents (and their siblings) and In cases where they met a dramatic fate – they also relate to the great-grandparents (e.g. death during childbirth), As well as any former partners of your parents and grandparents.

Have you or anyone in your present family had:

• A stillborn child?

• An abortion or a miscarriage? (Please note: It is not necessary to enquire about a parents abortion or miscarriage, honouring it as part of the dignity and privacy of the parent’s relationship. A stillborn child, however, is considered a sibling and children do better to know about it.)

• An illegitimate child?

• Is/was there a child who was abandoned or given up for adoption?

• Experience separation from the mother at a young age (e.g. an illness or hospital stay)?

• Experience a traumatic event during childhood?

• Have a life-threatening event/accident at any age?

• Have a former spouse, fiancé, partner or lover (the parents or grandparents)?

• Have a serious or long-lasting illness?

• Have a physical or mental disability?

• Attempt/commit suicide?

• Commit a crime, including a war crime?

• Survive or perish in the Holocaust or a genocide taking place at another time?

• Become a missing person?

• Join the clergy or enter a monastery?

• Encounter prejudice – being slandered, ignored, disrespected, dishonored, treated with contempt or as an outcast (e.g. homosexuals or lesbians, disabled persons, alcoholics, Criminals, street person, war veteran)?

• Emigrate to another country?

• Lose their fortune?